Search and Rescue

A breakup is a good time to look inside. To search for the broken pieces of your psyche and heal them. On the flip side, it is an opportune moment to search for your winning attributes and spotlight them. Rescue them and bring them to the forefront. We forget who we are and what we're capable of until the light shines in.

The good and bad lurk in the darkness until a love fail and broken heart blows it wide open and exposes it all. We all just want to be loved "as is" but is that right? That's giving yourself permission to become stagnant. It doesn't speak to your worth. So, you have an Achilles' Heel. We all do.

Some of these things don't surface until they're encapsulated by the right surroundings. Like popcorn. It is a hard kernel until it is dropped in oil and touched by the right temperature. According to www.ScientificAmerican.com, the water trapped inside the kernel fights to get out and is blocked by the outer shell. That "simmering" water turns to steam and the pressure and temperature working together causes the hull to burst. And voila! Substinence is born. Good things can come out of bad situations.

It is the same with love that ends in a broken heart. Love exposes vulnerability and fear. The prolonged exposure to vulnerability causes fears and worries to boil inside. Add too much pressure and heat and bam! The ugly escapes.

If not contained, these anxieties can walk you right into a broken heart. That shattered heart then exposes how those anxieties worked against you. But it's too late. Life doesn't always offer a second chance. Of course, unless it is meant to be.

If not, the best you can do is address and control those anxieties through counseling or prayer. Or both. And do better next time. Don't let them control you. You dictate to fear and vulnerability that they will not hijack your dreams!